Fulfilling my destiny as a funeral celebrant

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I have finally found it, what I was meant to be, what I’m here to do.

All my adult life I’ve been striving to find the slot that I was meant to fit into. I’ve been a caregiver and teacher of young children for over 30 years. Teaching is the most challenging and rewarding job to do. It is also the most fun and I love it. It is a caring and nurturing profession with a huge weight of responsibility, educating future generations to be rounded global citizens. However, I’ve always been striving to find my particular purpose beyond this.

What I’m meant to do has found me – I’m a funeral celebrant.

Initially, it wasn’t the aspect of celebrancy that I thought I’d be able to do because, like most people, dealing with death frightened me.  I worried that, as am empath, I wouldn’t be able to cope with people’s grief and would break down and therefore, be no help to them at all.

When an article about my celebrant role ended up on the front of my local paper (Don’t ask me how I got to be front page news. I think they were looking for something bright and cheerful to balance all the depressing news going on.) I digress. A local funeral director sought me out. He had heard about me, it’s a small rural community, that happens! He knew another friend of mine who worked in the cemetery service and between them they decided that I’d be able to conduct funerals.

We met and I was persuaded that I had the skills required and I should just get on with it. So, within a couple of weeks, I was contacted by the said FD and informed about a family who, he felt, I would be a ‘good fit’ with. The support throughout the whole process from the FD was incredible. Nothing was too much trouble, no question too silly, I could contact him any time, night or day.

The funeral confirmation email arrived with all the details I would need to contact the family and begin the process of creating the farewell ceremony that their loved one deserved. I was heading to where I was meant to be.

I’ll describe the process of creating a funeral ceremony, from a celebrant’s perspective, in another blog.

‘Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in the hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.’ 

– Jamie Anderson

How can I help?

Leading ceremonies that celebrate your love with weddings, vow renewals and commitment ceremonies.

Welcoming little ones to the world and bringing the family together. Children are my specialist subject!

Bidding a fond farewell fit for your loved one. Allowing you to celebrate their life, personality and passions.