Funerals are an opportunity for family and friends to remember, mourn and celebrate the life of someone they loved in ways that are meaningful to them.

Unlike some religious funerals, a civil funeral doesn’t have to follow a particular order of service or rites.

“Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.”

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Conducting funerals and celebration of life services in Cumbria and beyond.

A civil funeral ceremony or celebration of life can be planned for any venue that’s happy to host and accommodate it, or it can be held outdoors, including at natural and woodland burial sites. Although they are often referred to as ‘chapels’, crematoria venues host non-religious funerals.

Remember, you can have a funeral service anywhere – in a home, garden, village hall… it’s important that you create a moment that you and your family are comfortable with. A good funeral director should be able to accommodate any practical location at your request.

You may be inspired to come up with creative and alternative ideas for the funeral service and you don’t have to stick to any set customs or rituals. I can help you decide on music, readings, poetry and symbolic gestures that are most significant to reflect the life and values of your loved one.

Your loved one’s personality and passions can be truly represented and celebrated. Even though it’s not a religious service, a civil funeral can include blessings, prayers or hymns, if you’d like to include a spiritual element to the funeral.

How does it work?

The initial contact with me is usually arranged through the funeral director although you can get in touch with me independently. From there we can meet, in person or virtually, and I will be instructed through the chief mourner how you would like the funeral to take shape.

I will get to know about your loved one and will create the ‘script’ for the ceremony. I will ensure that the ceremony is personal, meaningful and well structured, with a script that accurately reflects the life, values and beliefs of the person who has died. I encourage your involvement and you’ll approve every single step of the script writing process, so that on the day your family can feel comfortable knowing exactly what is going to be said, and know that there will be a friendly and reassuring face conducting the service for you.

On the day of the funeral, I will be there to officiate the ceremony from welcoming the coffin and mourners, leading the ceremony, supporting anyone who is speaking, addressing the committal and ensuring all elements are dignified and fulfilling. 

Fee: From £230 (added costs for optional extras and travel/accommodation expenses depending on venue location).

Officiating funerals is truly an honour.